Therapy is an important part of many people’s lives. It can be difficult to know whether therapy is working for you or not, and there are many reasons why talk therapy might not be working, and it’s important to know there are other types of therapy that do not involve talking as the process for gaining results. 

How to know when therapy isn’t working for you, and how to identify if it’s time to change your outlook, or your therapist:

• Are you ready to do the work?

Therapy is not a one-size-fits-all solution. It requires work from both the therapist and the client. The therapist’s goal is to help their client find a way to heal their pain. The client’s goal is to take responsibility for their life and stop blaming others for what has happened to them. 

The first step in therapy is admitting that you need help. Therapy can be a long process, but it can also be very rewarding when you finally start making progress and life gets better. 

• Are you seeing the right therapist?

The type of therapy you are receiving matters. If the therapist is not a good fit for you, it will be difficult to get the desired results. A good therapist will be able to provide emotional support and understand your needs. This makes it easier for them to help you with any issues that you might be experiencing. Feeling safe and understood are important. 

If you’ve ever seen a therapist, you know that the relationship between you and your therapist is built on trust. If you feel like your therapist is unethical, it’s important to speak up. You can confront them directly, or you can seek out a new therapist who will better respect your needs and boundaries.  

• Do you trust the process?

Therapy is a process of self-discovery and self-improvement. It is important to be honest and genuine in therapy. A therapist is not just someone that you see when you are feeling down or out of place. They are there to help you find the root cause of your problems and give you the tools to solve them. You should also be able to trust your therapist so that they can help guide you on this journey. 

Talk therapy is a process of helping people to identify and understand their problems. The therapist will not give advice or tell you what you should do. They will help you understand your options by exploring the different aspects of your life and understanding which parts need work so that you can make your own decisions about what to do next.  This may be helpful to clear confusion, or make decisions however will not release repressed emotions or heal past trauma. 

Talk therapy is a process that takes time, results are gradual and happen slowly. But, if you are willing to put in the work and are open minded and willing to make changes, then there is a good chance of better results. 

• Are there inconsistencies with you or your therapist?

Inconsistency from either the therapist or the client is a common reason for a lack of results. If the therapist is not consistently providing support and guidance, or if the client is not consistently participating in and engaging with the therapy process, it is unlikely that any progress will be made. In order to maximise the chances of success, both the therapist and client need to be dedicated to the process and be willing to put in the work required. It is important to choose a therapist that is right for you. 

• Do you have fears about therapy?

There are some fears that can pose resistance to therapy. For example, you may be afraid of being judged or rejected by your therapist. Or you may be worried that therapy will dredge up painful memories that you’d rather keep hidden. These fears are understandable, but they shouldn’t keep you from seeking help. Remember, your therapist is there to support you, not to judge you. And while it’s true that therapy can sometimes be painful, it’s also a chance to heal old wounds and learn how to cope with difficult emotions.  

The MAIN REASON talk therapy often doesn’t work is because when you talk, you are just repeating what you believe. Clients also often find that retelling the past causes re-traumatisation. Any new perspective gained from speaking to your therapist will be a conscious shift, and we know that overcoming emotional and mental problems doesn’t happen quickly using conscious to unconscious-processes. 

Fast, powerful, and effective change and healing occur at an UNconscious level. That’s why we use Trance, Imagination, Repetition, and Emotional experiences to create lasting change using Hypnosis and other modalities which are more effective to overcome problems than just talking about them.  

If you’re struggling to overcome your fears and start therapy, consider reaching out to a trusted friend or family member for support. They can provide encouragement and help you take the first step towards healing.